Ruby Aldrige photographed by Lina Scheynius for the Novemeber 2012 issue of Vogue Turkey.

This editorial beautifully captures my present state of mind. And that being how I just don't feel like doing much of anything despite being inundated. I'm lethargic, a little under-inspired and a whole lot of overwhelmed. And maybe this listlessness pertains to my birthday which looms a few days away. Or maybe it's just Mercury in retrograde, causing havoc and doping me with some seriously lousy mojo.

I found these images over on The Poor Homme and fell in love with the photography. Something in them resonated with something deep within myself, something I was unable to describe. But as I began to read I was taken aback with the narration. The way this piece was intricately dissected, putting words down that I was unable to articulate myself.


There’s a wonderful fragility that runs through the work of photographer Lina Scheynius, and her latest shoot “Melancholia” with model Ruby Aldridge publicises both that and the effects of such despondency – The confinement to a room, the absence of natural light, the glazed eyes, the lie ins and most of all, solitude. It’s both intimate, yet slightly uncomfortable to be shown something that people refrain from talking about in reality.


That last line though. How we refrain from speaking of such things. How much rings true of today's society and in particular the online world. We are compelled to camouflage those shadows that uncontrollably linger about. We feel the need to obscure what darkens our days and all because they just doesn't filter well on Instagram. I'm kind of sick of this perpetual and fake perfection we strive to portray. That life comes only in shades of flawless white with no tones of grey or black. It doesn't and we can't photoshop them away in reality so why must we here? And I think this is why I've shied away from social media the last few weeks. I've chosen to focus on what is actually around me; the good and bad as opposed to absorbing myself in this farce. Oh how depressing it can be constantly bombarded with shiny new Gianvito Rossi's and Chanel's that are unrealistically out of ones budget! Am I right? Especially when you reach a point in life where you can no longer throw caution to the wind and choose fashion over practicalness. Life gets in the way, health deteriorates and other nuances take priority, as they always do, so why must we hide the bad in our lives? Why are we so ashamed to admit that things are not always impeccable? That life is not a picture perfect editorial? It's actually during those painful times when we need the most "likes". Not because we've brought that handbag the masses are coveting but when it's darkest before dawn, that is when we need the most support.

I'm on the precipice of getting older. And while I've noted favorite bloggers of mine openly and proudly sharing hitting their thirties while also being so wonderfully cheery and optimistic (I don't know they do it? Pray tell), I can't help but wince at the number twenty nine, feeling like it is the most horrible, ghastly thing ever. And with that number I feel like my time is up, that I am now far too old to pursue my passions. Worst still, if I haven't accomplished what I set out to do then I never will. There's also the extraordinary pressure to "settle down" and go through those mundane motions of getting married and having kids. Hell, I am in no way ready for that for a good decade or so and because of my age I feel like I have to make a choice and make it now. Career or Family? I don't think I've ever really been quite so honest or open to you all. I am generally a private person so wearing my heart on my sleeve like this and being so vulnerable is utterly scary. Especially in a world where we glorify perfection, strive for grandeur and the rainbows unicorns shit out of their asses.

-Sxx
via the poor homme
Ruby Aldrige photographed by Lina Scheynius for the Novemeber 2012 issue of Vogue Turkey.

This editorial beautifully captures my present state of mind. And that being how I just don't feel like doing much of anything despite being inundated. I'm lethargic, a little under-inspired and a whole lot of overwhelmed. And maybe this listlessness pertains to my birthday which looms a few days away. Or maybe it's just Mercury in retrograde, causing havoc and doping me with some seriously lousy mojo.

I found these images over on The Poor Homme and fell in love with the photography. Something in them resonated with something deep within myself, something I was unable to describe. But as I began to read I was taken aback with the narration. The way this piece was intricately dissected, putting words down that I was unable to articulate myself.


There’s a wonderful fragility that runs through the work of photographer Lina Scheynius, and her latest shoot “Melancholia” with model Ruby Aldridge publicises both that and the effects of such despondency – The confinement to a room, the absence of natural light, the glazed eyes, the lie ins and most of all, solitude. It’s both intimate, yet slightly uncomfortable to be shown something that people refrain from talking about in reality.


That last line though. How we refrain from speaking of such things. How much rings true of today's society and in particular the online world. We are compelled to camouflage those shadows that uncontrollably linger about. We feel the need to obscure what darkens our days and all because they just doesn't filter well on Instagram. I'm kind of sick of this perpetual and fake perfection we strive to portray. That life comes only in shades of flawless white with no tones of grey or black. It doesn't and we can't photoshop them away in reality so why must we here? And I think this is why I've shied away from social media the last few weeks. I've chosen to focus on what is actually around me; the good and bad as opposed to absorbing myself in this farce. Oh how depressing it can be constantly bombarded with shiny new Gianvito Rossi's and Chanel's that are unrealistically out of ones budget! Am I right? Especially when you reach a point in life where you can no longer throw caution to the wind and choose fashion over practicalness. Life gets in the way, health deteriorates and other nuances take priority, as they always do, so why must we hide the bad in our lives? Why are we so ashamed to admit that things are not always impeccable? That life is not a picture perfect editorial? It's actually during those painful times when we need the most "likes". Not because we've brought that handbag the masses are coveting but when it's darkest before dawn, that is when we need the most support.

I'm on the precipice of getting older. And while I've noted favorite bloggers of mine openly and proudly sharing hitting their thirties while also being so wonderfully cheery and optimistic (I don't know they do it? Pray tell), I can't help but wince at the number twenty nine, feeling like it is the most horrible, ghastly thing ever. And with that number I feel like my time is up, that I am now far too old to pursue my passions. Worst still, if I haven't accomplished what I set out to do then I never will. There's also the extraordinary pressure to "settle down" and go through those mundane motions of getting married and having kids. Hell, I am in no way ready for that for a good decade or so and because of my age I feel like I have to make a choice and make it now. Career or Family? I don't think I've ever really been quite so honest or open to you all. I am generally a private person so wearing my heart on my sleeve like this and being so vulnerable is utterly scary. Especially in a world where we glorify perfection, strive for grandeur and the rainbows unicorns shit out of their asses.

-Sxx
via the poor homme

69 comments

  1. Such awesome structures! Thanks for sharing :)

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  2. amazing pics <33333

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  3. These are stunning photos

    Candice | Beauty Candy Loves

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  4. These shots are so cool! I love them!
    Melanie @ meandmr.com

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  5. These photos are truly amazing. About your age, think you're very young and you can do a lot of things. I'm happily turning 43 in a couple of months. I do new things every day.

    Jasmine ♥♥♥
    For a Real Woman

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    1. 43! Jasmine what is your secret, you look much, much younger. I guess you are only as old as you feel, age is but a silly number xx

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  6. These photo's deeply resonate in me too, I can't believe how gorgeous your writing is. Your blog is my fav out of all of the ones that I've stumbled upon recently!
    You're wincing at 29!? Come on though!! That is your prime! You're independent, strong and able! You've built your own life and you're not relying on others.

    I think you should be reveling in it babe!

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    1. Awww thank you for the kind words on both my writing and my age! You're right, I need to remember how far I've come and look forward to achieving even greater things in the future xx

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  7. great inspiration!
    happy day!

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  8. Wow!! amazing pics!! Gorgeous!
    Kisses from Spain.
    Xoxo, P.

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  9. amazing this shooting!!! the dress are wonderful! ;)
    Come to check it out my new post: http://honeyandcotton.org/come-fare-capelli-a-onde-perfette/
    Kiss from Rome.

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  10. I think this is a normal state everyone goes through once (or twice, or more...) in their life... Everything passes, and you just get mature not old.
    Kisses and cheer up
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  11. The model and editorial amazing, like how you use it to explain your state of mind girl no one is never to old to go after their dream and there is no such thing as perfection we all have our insecurity or flaws.

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  12. I love these shots!!!!
    Happy wed!
    Kisses, Paola.

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  13. Amazing editorial, love these dreamy shots!! xx

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  14. Beautiful editorial, but I hope you get out of that state of mind soon!

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  15. What beautiful photos! :)

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  16. You know the one thing that has always stuck in my mind after glancing over social media and seeing so much unobtainable perfection, is this quote. "never compare your behind the scenes with somebody else's highlight reel". Because that's all social media is, someone's highlight reel!
    I know when I share a pic of something tasty I've made for example, I don't share the messy kitchen or the piles of dishes it's generated, just the good end product, haha. I like that my feed is full of positive, frivolous pretty pictures some days. Other days, I have to remind myself that other people have their 'dirty dishes' hiding outside the frame, just as I do too. No-one is perfect, some people just hide that better than others ;)

    Age is but a number, you can achieve anything you want to. I know you can do it, regardless of the year you were born!

    Away From The Blue

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  17. I had no idea that you were 29! That's amazing - almost time to celebrate the dirty thirties! ;)
    Don't be so hard on yourself - I think being in the late twenties and early thirties is so liberating. The world is your oyster.
    People seem to think that there's this 'clock' and that time is running out.. but really... we never know when it will be the end.. so every day we age should be a celebration! And we should make the most of every day!

    I wish I could celebrate with you! I will.. online ;)

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    1. Ahhh let's not mention that dirty word just yet looool Jade. Baby steps, baby steps. Thank you for the reminder to make the most of everyday though. We tend to get so caught up in frivolous stuff that we forget to live. xx

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  18. OMG, these are such gorgeous collection, dear! Have a lovely week! xoxo

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  19. Such beautiful photos! I am OBSESSED with each and every one! Stunning!

    --Samira xx--

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  20. The photos are so amazing! Love the clothes. I can relate to the questions that you are asking yourself but having gone through the same thing myself, I can tell you that you will be fine. And life doesn't have to be an either or. It can be and, and, and and! :)

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  21. Dont feel so bad... I'm in a bad mood too but its okay... and I'm almost 28 so I feel you sister!

    Keep in touch
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  22. Wow! Impressive editorial! So much inspiration!
    ♥♥♥
    Jeanne
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  23. You wont ever be too old to purse your passion Sonia, at 30, 40 even at 70! Age is only a number, what it counts is the state of your mind and your will, till you have them and be positive, you have everything. And choose between the two things for me is useless, a woman is made to achieve both status, career and family, girl power <3 Be happy Sonia, now starts the fun, believe me :) And regarding the editorial, is gorgeous! Many hugs! (ps have to stay careful on IG to see when is ur bday, cant miss it!)

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    1. Thanks Lilli, yes girl power we can and should be able to have and do it all xx

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  24. Bonitas fotos me gustan mucho.Un besazo
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  25. Thank you for sharing this honest and well-thought-out post, Sonia. Aging is not an easy thing, and what you are feeling is normal. We all go through it :( I hope you get out the funk soon. XOXO

    PS Advanced happy bday anyhow:)

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  26. COOL PHOTOS.. THE PINK
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  27. this is beautiful, and I'm glad you shared that quote from the editorial! I'm also worried about when I will hit the big 2-9, but I try not to think about it too much.. I always read about bloggers and celebrities saying being 30 is life changing, though. Wonder how that feels
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    1. The quote is actually words written by the blogger. It was his point of view and I felt like he surmised it so much more articulately than I could have. I've been hearing that too but it doesn't feel like it loool. And now I am so much more closer to thaaat number I'm struggling to find the brilliance of it. I guess I'll find out soon, sad face. xx

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  28. Beautiful editorial. I love how well you described the mood. I wouldn't have thought of that but after reading it, it's very true. Good luck!

    Amy Ann
    The Real Arnolds

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  29. OH how amazing! You have a beautiful blog!

    xx Girl in the Bunny Ears
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  30. Amazing photos. Love the structure of the pieces.

    Jenn from jenniferjayne.blogspot.co.uk

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  31. Amazing post. Happy Birthday. Thanks for sharing.

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  32. Love this! The volume of the garments are stunning!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeat Soles

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  33. this is such a beautiful editorial. I deeply love the plastic and deep volumes of the clothes. The poses of the model are great.
    love the whole concept
    xxx
    mari
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  34. Loving your shoots!!!!!!The fist one is fantastic!!!!
    xoxo
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  35. Very funny angle! :)
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  36. Amazing editorial babe. Thanks for sharing. Happy birthday. Kiss, Mel
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  37. beautiuful pics
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    kiss

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  38. I think your blogging approach is perfect as is, but I feel you. And these photos are so beautiful!

    xo

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  39. Beautiful editorial. Thanks for the visit. Would you like to follow each other? let me know.
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  40. Great blog
    Please follow me first and let me know if you followed me.
    I will follow you back after it.

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  41. There's nothing that says you have to have it figured out at 29- or that you have to "settle down" then, either. You do what's best for you- and you alone. It's easier said than done, yes- but in the end you're the one who has to live with yourself, in your life. So you should make it what YOU want. :)

    -Ashley
    Le Stylo Rouge

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    1. Thanks Ashley for the pearls of wisdom xx

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  42. Yes I feel your pain, the world is not the fairest of places and they don't say "It's a man's world" for nothing and like it or not women are on a timeline...or at least if they want children. Men can sow their oats until their mid 40s for early fifties and still marry a 30 year old women and have kids. Women? Umm no. So just think long and hard about what it you want in life. Just kinda do some introspecting analyzing and give it a good think. Meditate on it, and maybe right in a diary along with that and I bet you will get some insights.

    Allie of ALLIE NYC
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    1. You got that right. The world is a very unequal especially between genders. We get frowned upon for everything. If we decide to have kids and not work thats a no-no. If we want a career and no kids thats a no-no. We want both that's a no-no. Women dating a younger guy that is a no-no. Sigh. Men get away with too much. But anyway thank you for the advice, I'll take the journalling on board Allie xx

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  43. I appreciate your honesty, and your feelings of pressure from society to follow a certain order in your life. Many women, especially who are close to, or have hit 30 can relate to what you are feeling. I am past 30 haha! I may not look my age, but trust me I feel it. Especially with a growing teenage boy. I would say to live your life the way you want to be happy, do what you love, express yourself the way you want. Forget about what society expects, and focus on what you love. Speaking from my own experience. Just incase you were wondering, I never got married and I don't regret it. :)) I am still happy most of the time, loving life to the fullest.

    Much Love,
    Tania
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    1. Thanks Tania for sharing and for the advice (and yeah you don't look your age, whatever that may be with a teenage boy) xx

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  44. Well, leave it to me to get the last two post backwards. Yes, dear Sonia, I read you birthday post first before stumbling over here to read about your melancholia. Perhaps, it is a good thing because the perspective generates such a positive feel.

    You've chosen the perfect images and words to portray your feeling in not only this post dear Sonia but the other as well for in life we experience both ends of the spectrum not necessarily in the order we choose or in the time that we would prefer. But time, dear Sonia, is always on your side when you go through the passages of funk and joy and sometimes show the messy dishes in the background.

    There will be those who will tell you "this too shall pass" four words that should mean "today is the first day of the rest of your life" embrace it, cherish it, and remember it.

    I've been in a "funk" myself the last couple of weeks. I call it a case of the mullifubbles. I'm feeling much better now and chances are after your trip to NYC, you will too; until next time:)

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    1. This too shall pass is one of my favorite sayings but that said when it passes so does time and I fret about how much of it I wasted. But I'll do best to keep in a positive frame of mind. BTW I'm not actually in New York, I was just setting a scene or a mood for the accompanying outfit above in that post. xx

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  45. Ahh! Your words are the exact mirror to my life and I totally get every single one it. Social media is a funny thing. I totally see how people "filter" their lives and since I know several people personally and know their lives are otherwise it's a bit of an annoyance. I see it all the time with people's picture perfect lives and then you go behind the scenes and it's not exactly all that it's hyped up to be. At the same time, when people do reflect and shine on their difficulties, a lot of times, people see it as "too depressing", "asking for too much attention" and so on. You really can't win.

    As far as career and family, I absolutely get it. I'm 27, nearing my thirties, and having been in a relationship with Charles for 12 years, it's kind of expected. His dad wants us to have kids in the next few years and I'm scared. I'm nowhere NEAR where I want to be career-wise but the biological clock is ticking and it's the constant battle of following my dreams or "settling" and the thought of settling is scary. Thank you Sonia for reading my rant. It's wonderful knowing that there is someone out there that gets my dilemma. Not too many of my friends and family get it! Have a great weekend!

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    1. Thank you for your honestly Kat. You've been the only one thus far to really agree and see the point I was trying to make here with Instagram and with life in general and that silly clock. It sucks, we want to be at a certain point in life and we strive and work our butts off for it yet this clock ticks away and for us there is no going back. Once the opportunity goes, it goes and that's it. So we have to choose. I'm glad you feel the same way, I don't have any friends or family who see it this way neither. xx

      P.S: can I love you even more girl?

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  46. This is a beautiful post and an absolute delight to read! The photography is gorgeous too x
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  47. It is a great thing to strive for more as well as dream a little. But we can't live in those dreams and keep up facades. We all need to remember to embrace every moment - perfect, imperfect, and gritty. It is the collection of moments that make up life and hopefully we can look back at most of it in fondness.

    xoxo,
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  48. Wow love your site!! ❤️

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