Honestly I am not a huge fan of Insta roundups which is why they don't make routine debuts in these parts. Frankly, if you don't see them on your feed, then tough. I shouldn't be so harsh because the same applies to myself. Being separated by seas and having vast time differences makes me guilty of being absent on the fabulousness of my blogger buddies. My main reason for sharing my Instagram - @soniademacedo snaps today is because I've drawn blank on posting ideas. And because of all that flurry over a social media princess' truthful revelations (albeit I'm a little late in voicing my opinion).

Personally I've seen this as an incredibly positive step in the right direction for social media.

It is no secret that Instagram is a haven for the staged. And I'm not entirely sure if I've confessed this, but I'll do it again, my Instagram account is essentially 90% staged. A smoke and mirrors, a contrived view of "perfection" when my life is anything but. I've found myself refraining from posting, simply unable to acquire impeccable natural lighting to create those pretty POTD flat-lays I curate. I can't seem to seize those immaculately flattering selfie's or a straightforward FWIS without photobombing flyaway strands of hair. Truthfully most of my snaps are latergrams; images I've retained for posting at ideal times. It's sad that for me Instagram has morphed into this. It is not fun anymore, its become an arduous task. And I think that is why I've gravitated more towards Snapchat; there's simply no fooling anyone there.

I felt compelled to write this because there was an enormous amount of backlash against those who'd spoken out and confirmed suspicions and I couldn't help but feel like it sounded like a case of "thou does protest too much".

I understand we all need to make a quid, and I'll never condone that. I am guilty of selling out because I need to support myself too. My problem has always remained with the utter disregard for transparency. Not so much on the blog scene, but Instagram. You know a simple hashtag here and there doesn't hurt anyone.

The majority of my readers are aged in their twenties. This issue isn't news to us. In fact most of us have probably developed a well trained eye in deciphering the fake. I know I can tell when someone's outfit has been a "care of" despite not mentioning so. However we need to remember that we're not the only ones who use this platform. There are a lot youths using Instagram these days and I can't help but feel like we're creating an unrealistic expectation of adulthood. I can't imagine how hard the world must be to a twelve year old today. I thought it was harsh back then myself and that was a time when anything sartorial related came direct from magazines and the internet took its sweet time connecting.

I wish some influential people would cut the crap and quit defending these practices because it's not about you, it's about the vulnerable ones in your audience. Not just youngsters but other misinformed people feeling those FOMO anxieties. We're making it unnecessarily demanding while setting them up for gross disappointment. Taking a flawless selfie is a rarity on the first go. We don't all have perfectly tanned hot dog legs or thigh gaps. And you don't reach a certain age and find yourself effortlessly dropping hard cash on Chloe and spending entire years traveling abroad. As much as I wish it would, life doesn't play by those rules. We don't highlight those moments we spend tirelessly behind a desk or register. Those struggles and hard yards of work and scrimping spent to make those pleasures reality. I feel like we have a certain responsibility here. We are after all the generation paving these worlds of social media.

-Sxx
basics and a little chanelo // long weekend reads
missing her cuddles // tgif
hello lover // perfect
perfectly plaid // morning dappled light
coming home with me // the joys of a classic timepiece
weekend cravings // stripes at seed
carnations // happy deliveries
alexandra // rose gold everything
Honestly I am not a huge fan of Insta roundups which is why they don't make routine debuts in these parts. Frankly, if you don't see them on your feed, then tough. I shouldn't be so harsh because the same applies to myself. Being separated by seas and having vast time differences makes me guilty of being absent on the fabulousness of my blogger buddies. My main reason for sharing my Instagram - @soniademacedo snaps today is because I've drawn blank on posting ideas. And because of all that flurry over a social media princess' truthful revelations (albeit I'm a little late in voicing my opinion).

Personally I've seen this as an incredibly positive step in the right direction for social media.

It is no secret that Instagram is a haven for the staged. And I'm not entirely sure if I've confessed this, but I'll do it again, my Instagram account is essentially 90% staged. A smoke and mirrors, a contrived view of "perfection" when my life is anything but. I've found myself refraining from posting, simply unable to acquire impeccable natural lighting to create those pretty POTD flat-lays I curate. I can't seem to seize those immaculately flattering selfie's or a straightforward FWIS without photobombing flyaway strands of hair. Truthfully most of my snaps are latergrams; images I've retained for posting at ideal times. It's sad that for me Instagram has morphed into this. It is not fun anymore, its become an arduous task. And I think that is why I've gravitated more towards Snapchat; there's simply no fooling anyone there.

I felt compelled to write this because there was an enormous amount of backlash against those who'd spoken out and confirmed suspicions and I couldn't help but feel like it sounded like a case of "thou does protest too much".

I understand we all need to make a quid, and I'll never condone that. I am guilty of selling out because I need to support myself too. My problem has always remained with the utter disregard for transparency. Not so much on the blog scene, but Instagram. You know a simple hashtag here and there doesn't hurt anyone.

The majority of my readers are aged in their twenties. This issue isn't news to us. In fact most of us have probably developed a well trained eye in deciphering the fake. I know I can tell when someone's outfit has been a "care of" despite not mentioning so. However we need to remember that we're not the only ones who use this platform. There are a lot youths using Instagram these days and I can't help but feel like we're creating an unrealistic expectation of adulthood. I can't imagine how hard the world must be to a twelve year old today. I thought it was harsh back then myself and that was a time when anything sartorial related came direct from magazines and the internet took its sweet time connecting.

I wish some influential people would cut the crap and quit defending these practices because it's not about you, it's about the vulnerable ones in your audience. Not just youngsters but other misinformed people feeling those FOMO anxieties. We're making it unnecessarily demanding while setting them up for gross disappointment. Taking a flawless selfie is a rarity on the first go. We don't all have perfectly tanned hot dog legs or thigh gaps. And you don't reach a certain age and find yourself effortlessly dropping hard cash on Chloe and spending entire years traveling abroad. As much as I wish it would, life doesn't play by those rules. We don't highlight those moments we spend tirelessly behind a desk or register. Those struggles and hard yards of work and scrimping spent to make those pleasures reality. I feel like we have a certain responsibility here. We are after all the generation paving these worlds of social media.

-Sxx
basics and a little chanelo // long weekend reads
missing her cuddles // tgif
hello lover // perfect
perfectly plaid // morning dappled light
coming home with me // the joys of a classic timepiece
weekend cravings // stripes at seed
carnations // happy deliveries
alexandra // rose gold everything

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  1. I think your last paragaph is so true - instagram feeds (and any form of social media) only share the highlights. Because, let's face it, no-one wants to see boring photos of us in tiny cubicles 9-5 5 days a week working to afford the pretty things that are shared, ha!

    As you know, I wrote a post about this recently as I really feel it's an important message to get across. We should admire pretty feeds and pictures for being pretty feeds and pictures, but never because they reflect reality.

    Away From The Blue Blog

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    1. That's true, Instagram is definitely a haven for the shiny. I do think we need to emphasize that it's only the highlight reel because a lot of people don't see it as that xx

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  2. Thank you for this sincere post. I think most social networks are staged. That's why I only post some flashes of my life and not too much. I don't like to loose my privacy or post fake photos.

    Jasmine ♥♥♥

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  3. Beautiful pics. The book "the girl on the train" sounds interesting. Is it good?

    Greetings from Berlin
    Valentina | DAILY SUIT

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  4. Really amazing pics, love this recap.
    Kisses

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  5. Perfect pics! Gemma xx
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  6. Lovely Instagram snaps. Personally I think that Instagram is showing another world, far away from reality.But I don't mind at all since I also try to make things more beautiful around me, even if it's on a social media. I also postpone uploading some of the photos, so they are also latergrams. Have a nice day, Sonya!

    sunandsany

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    1. I love that you try to make your surroundings more beautiful with those shots, it sounds like a wonderful creative challenge xx

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  8. Is true when someone tries to paint they have a perfect life and face and young generation tries to keep up I also read comment on youtuber when a young person thing they make so much and wonder how can they do that and no answer back. I keep it real because I use it for my blog purpose all you see is real adventures not much since I'm always in the office and as per my selfie some real me and some with IG color filter is a purpose why they are to be use but if you read my blog see my untouch face you will see is my real face not much difference from IG. I get alot of collaboration through IG I do not use snap since I spent 100 percent of my time 5 days a week at work or away on business pretty boring no need to share that and no purpose for my blog what company join snap. I like to keep my personal life private to much sharing is not good I been harrass by my account trying to be taken and images of my face being taken in IG in the past 3 months I had change my password 2-3 times a week and it starting to get fustrating since I'm too dam busy for this.

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    1. I love your blog Jackie. You definitely know how to stay grounded and how to connect with your readers. Harassment on Instagram is no good though, I hope you can find some solace on there soon xx

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  9. Hi Sonia, I very much get what you are saying. I have been playing with the idea of quitting Facebook and Instagram. I just don't really enjoy them anymore, in the sense of feeding them with content. I also love Snapchat and I have now discovered Periscope which is also a more 'natural' (no filter, no photoshop as it is live) way of communicating. I'm still waiting and thinking things through as I don't want to have regrets but if two profiles will go, they will be FB and IG! And I've given up on Pinterest a long time ago. Just did my head in...

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    1. I've toyed with that idea too, but I find FB my main way of connecting to friends and family these days. I haven't tried Periscope, I might need to look into that one too. xx

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  10. I never cared that much about my Instagram looking professional, mainly because I do have a job that pays my bills and don't rely on blogging (I would be completely broke). Maybe Snapchat is the way to go, but there is just no way I am committing to another form of social media. It is way too time consuming!

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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    1. Snapchat is definitely less demanding and a whole lot more fun xx

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  11. Love what u said and I agree with u Sonia. I read her story and was little shoken as she was very famous and popular so not expected that step at all. To be honest I also think that perfect photos and feeds have also the goal to inspire people in better or at leat is what I search in the other pics and what Id like to spread with mine, just positivity and happiness, even though maybe that was my worst day ever lol!:) Btw ur IG is always so minimal and lovely, so u I think. Hugs! xo

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    1. Those kind of shots should inspire shouldn't they, but I think in todays world it just adds pressure to some. I know it does for me, it adds serious anxiety and FOMO at times! xx

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  12. Love the pics they are so beautiful.

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  13. I love my privacy, I don't like posting my life, but sharig hits, ideas. Thanks for this lovely post :)

    xoxo
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  14. Thank you for this post and for your honesty, Sonia. I'm not in my twenties anymore, and I must admit that I even fall prey into these perfect images and think, "Man. Why don't I look like that/live in a house like that/ eat food like that...etc." Perfection in social media has become such a norm, and you're right. I can't even imagine how young people survive nowadays with this whole idea of always looking good. As a mother, I can only hope that my kids will grow up well-adjusted enough that they won't let other people's ideas of what is right dictate how they live.

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    1. I'm definitely with you and everybody here, Sonia! Those Insta roundups on the blogs are a nice recap for those who don't use Instagram (like many of my friends, also parents for example). I have to admit I even struggle sometimes to keep my account updated. There's not much to share about the life of a mommy or a student... Haha! I think micro blogging has a similar function like blogging in general: it's a platform to share things we like and which inspire us. Guess that's the new generation of blogs!! And it's up to us to reflect the right use of it. Thank you for yours, Sonia!! <3

      xoxo Ira
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    2. Thank you for your honesty Emmy. We're wiser to all this and yet we can still fall prey. Imagine the vulnerable who aren't aware and what they must be feeling at the sight of it xx

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    3. Ira I have the same problem. I'm on the road most of the time and I don't go to "flash" or "fancy" locations lol so I find it hard to come up with content myself too. I feel like I'm always posting the same concept, flatlays and FWIS. I get a little bored sometimes with it xx

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  15. Loving all of these snaps! I'm seriously dying over those heels! They're so fun!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeat Soles

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  16. I love your watch Sonia! Very cool plaid shirt too! Great selection of pictures Miss! ;)
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  17. I resisted joining Instagram for the longest time because I have issues with the whole fake lifestyle some people perpetuate. I'm also too practical to get those overly staged/styled shots and always question things that don't seem to belong together like shoes and a keyboards. You make a good point about transparency though and thank you for your honesty. I think we all use the medium in different ways and some people do keep it more real. I mean I'm all about well lit and composed images since I have to back up the fact that I'm a photographer.

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    1. I'm the opposite. I'm such a perfectionist and I can't help but over style and stage everything. Real time is never cooperative for me xx

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  18. You have such a lovely feed! These photos are so pretty!

    http://www.theaisleofstyle.com/

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  19. Love your post, great content!

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  20. Amazing photos !! :)
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  21. I've done a post like this before and I'm actually going to do another one later this week (mainly because it's Thanksgiving and I don't have time to write a legit post). Thanks for sharing. Does this mean your Instagram is now going to be more real and less "latergrams" as you say?

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    1. I'd love for it to be, but for now latergrams may reign. Perhaps with upcoming travel I can be real time as I'll be coming across more photo-worthy shots xx

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  22. I too have shared latergrams up to even one week old. And yes chances of getting the perfect selfie at first try is super slim, probably never. Most of mine come out wrong which is why I loved the one from halloween cos every shot was on point, hahahaa. Lighting and angles perhaps. Sometimes I have wondered how people do it as I scroll down my ig feed. It's like everyone is living the perfect life and I'm in the classroom teaching my heart out so I can buy more shoes cos that's what I love. I'm guilty of staging necklaces and shoes on pretty rocks, jewelry on lovely rose petals or Vogue as a background etc though, hahah. I must find you on instagram, :))). Mine is fashionably_idu. Great post.
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    1. Thanks Idu, you have such an incredible feed. Thanks for your honesty here and for finding me! xx

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  23. Oh yes there is alot of staging going for sure. But on the other hand it is creative so can be fun. And btw I saw that book in the book store today.

    Allie of ALLIENYC
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  24. I totally get where you're coming from. Sometimes people don't realize that things are more than just a "pretty picture". There needs to be some ethics behind what people are doing. That being said, your feed really is gorgeous though! And your great eye for gorgeous visuals is something you should be really proud of!

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    1. Thanks lovely. I do strive to place only quality content hehehe but they don't happen instantly, it takes a lot of work but it's a fun kind of creative work xx

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  25. I've always admired your honesty Sonia. Most of my images are #latergrams and I frequently tell people who "admire" my "Hawaii life" that it's not all perfect and full of sunshine (as I speak, it's been raining the last couple of days so I didn't have an opportunity to go shoot so a lot of my current images are #latergrams). I believe social media has both its advantages and disadvantages. I've met amazing people (such as yourself) through social media and as a photographer. It would be ashamed to post not so flattering photos (for business purposes anyways). BUT my biggest gripe with social media is in line with yours. I try, 100% of the time, to make my feed to be as authentic and realistic as I can (I swear, most one my photos take like 1 second to take and then I'm over it haha) but you can really tell if someone is fake. I know someone personally who bought her followers and now has almost 50K followers. My biggest gripe about it is that there are actual creatives and photographers who have worked so hard on their craft for years (such as myself) and then there are those who buy their followers and they get an unfair advantage in my field. Ugh and I guess that's what makes social media ugly and disgusting. It's not about the artist's work but how many followers they have.

    Anyway, if I remember correctly, you are based in Australia? If so, I'll be there for a day next month with my family! I would love to meet you!

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    1. Thanks for your honesty Katherine. Social media does have the major advantage of being able to connect with people and to make new friends. I feel so blessed to have met you girl. I'm also so thankful for the numerous new friendships I've made through it too. I feel the same about posting for the sake of posting. I prefer to do quality content because it's part of the brand I wish to portray also. I can see how vital it is too for a photographer. Posting in real time is just unrealistic sometimes. You really can tell the fake out there and who has brought followers and who hasn't. I've come across new accounts with only a handful of photos and yet they boast a following of 20k or 50k! How is this possible. You can also tell it's fake when their likes don't even hit 100 or 500. Technically if you have that amount of followers you should be getting a fair amount of likes and engagement in general too no? ;o) I hate that there is such an emphasis on followers and not quality. I can see why brands require it, technically it's supposed to garner them broader reach, but does it really? Especially if an audience is not engaged with the poster? And yes we WILL catch up, I will send you an email shortly doll xx

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  26. great post. very accurate! Instagram is fun, but should be taken with a grain of salt when it comes to 'are people in real life exactly like that?'

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  27. Great post and statement. I truly can't imagine being a 12 year old today too with all these pressure when everything looks tumblr perfect.

    Joyce // Joycentricity

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  28. You are right, Instagram is very staged and filtered. I don't mind pretty images, as long as people are aware of what is real and what is not. Sometimes it gets too much as it seems some people are desperately chasing perfection. I feel real can be pretty too, so we should not exaggerate :)
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  29. i accept insta as a showcase of images. like mini exhibitions. i don't take it as real life and do not compare myself to others on there. i do not have a young audience that views mine, but i 100% get your point about being aware of those who use it for comparisons in an unhealthy manner and being aware of that influence.

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    1. I like that you view it as a mini exhibition, I really like that analogy. xx

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  30. Lovin your white rug or fur or backdrop for your photo.
    Looks like a great week

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  31. It is not 'staged' but rather paying attention to good photography..? I love your photos! So bright!
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  32. I'm not sure how much staging goes into majority of 'picture perfect' IG accounts but judging by the recent surge of Instagram models coming clean about how fake everything is, it does seems like a lot of though and effort went into posting that one perfect picture. I see it as amazing photography but I understand what you mean by protecting the vulnerable ones. Kudos to you for speaking up and writing this post, Sonia, you have my respect.

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    1. I know my account is rather arduous, I can't imagine how so it would be for someone who is the face of theirs. Thank you for sharing your opinion Shireen xx

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  33. Thank you for your open-hearted post ! Btw, love the shoes!.

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  34. I totally agree... I can't imagine how it will be like if i every raise my own children. SNS is having a huge effect on the younger generation!
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    1. Geez raising children in this world, gosh, that would be so hard trying to help them maintain healthy levels of confidence xx

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  35. Love the post and thank you for you comments

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  36. Really interesting read and you speak so much truth! thanks for sharing

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  37. Your Instagram photos are beautiful! I try to stay away from Instagram roundups too but it's definitely perfect for when you don't have any other content to share. Plus, your blog readers may not be your Instagram followers anyways!

    Most of my Instagram photos I would say are "staged" like my coffee photos, flatlays, outfit photos are typically taken in one weekend. But I don't mind seeing that from other accounts either. I see it as paying attention to detail and creating something beautiful out of nothing. In fact, I appreciate very well thought out accounts since I understand how much time goes into producing each image!

    Anyways, just my two cents hehe. Hope you have an amazing rest of your week and thanks for always writing thought-provoking posts!

    Tina
    www.justatinabit.com

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  38. I feel the same about Instagram vs Snapchat. On Instagram perfection has become the norm and if you dare to post one picture that is not light enough, or not related to your blogging niche, you will see 5 people unfollow you within seconds. I'm not that active on Snapchat but I like it for the fact that you can still post about anything you like ;)
    xx

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